Note pinned to kindergartner's shirt prompts review

XiaoLin ChangThis kindergartner was sent home with a note for his parents pinned to his shirt.

The first time John Sinnott Elementary School sent the note home for the kindergartner's parents to sign, it was not returned. The second time, the note – printed on an 8.5-by-11-inch sheet of pink paper – was pinned to the student's shirt.

Requiring parents to sign off on school notices is nothing new. But the public manner in which this note was delivered has outraged some in Milpitas – including the mayor – and prompted school officials to review what has been a common practice.

Sent March 17, the form asked parents to acknowledge that they had received and reviewed their child's report card. When the student walked out of the classroom, about 50 to 60 parents were waiting to pick up their children, said XiaoLin Chang, who was there to take the student to an afterschool program.

"They asked the parents to return the form. It's totally not the kid's fault," said Chang, director of TianTian Chinese School. "He was just standing there and looked embarrassed."

Chang removed the note from the boy's shirt and informed his father of what happened when he picked up his son at the end of the day. The parents, who asked to not be identified because they worried about their relationship with the school, were upset and shocked, she said.

Chang emailed her concerns to about 200 members of her Chinese school, the Milpitas Unified School District Board of Education and the city's mayor, Jose Esteves.

Esteves responded that the incident was upsetting and offered to help raise the issue with school officials. In a phone interview Monday, he said the action was degrading.

"It's totally against what is taught in school, like we have to increase the confidence of a child, respect the individual, respect a person – it's totally against that," he said. "You don't use the child as a vehicle – a post office vehicle."

This is not the first time John Sinnott Elementary has sent a kindergartner home with a note pinned to his or her clothes, but it may be the last.

"The teachers, they have this procedure. They don't intend to harm the child at all. We've used this before, but we've never ever had a complaint," said Maria Del Rio, director of human resources at Milpitas Unified School District. "Many times children lose the note, so they pin them."

An incident in Florida this month, in which a teacher stapled a disciplinary note to a second grader's shirt, has raised similar concerns about just how far schools should go to make sure notices reach students' parents.

Del Rio could not say how often this happened or if other schools in the district had done the same. But John Sinnott Elementary's principal is talking to kindergarten teachers there about changing their procedures, and Del Rio said she will raise the issue with principals districtwide at their next meeting.

"We were pretty shocked it was an issue," she said. "Now that it is we obviously don't want parents to be upset. There are other ways we can do this – make sure parents check their backpacks so they can get their notices, that's all. As long as parents do that we have no problem."

Language barriers may have complicated the incident. Marsha Grilli, president of the Milpitas Unified Board of Education, said "the parents of the child knew this was going to happen. The teacher had been in contact with them." But Chang said the mother, who answered the school's phone call, does not speak English and did not understand.

Nearly 41 percent of John Sinnott Elementary's 724 students last year were English language learners – students whose primary language at home was not English, according to state education data. More than 9 percent of those students spoke Mandarin or Cantonese, both of which the kindergartner's mother speaks.

Del Rio said the school does send notes in other languages when parents do not speak English. But in this case, at least one parent could communicate in English, so it was not an issue, she said.

Esteves said he will wait to see what the district does next and "then go from there." But he said the district should stop its note-pinning practice and somehow make it up to the kindergartner and his parents "who lost their face."

"It's very tragic that they have to wait for parent comments like this one," he said. "They didn't have their own sense of total respect to kids."

 

Filed under: K–12, Daily Report

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wilsonj94109's picture
I am the parent of the child of this incident. There is something wrong about the report that "the parents of the child knew this was going to happen". The elementary school teacher actually called me that afternoon after the fact that my child was already been pinned, and the child's after school teacher already picked up the kid at 11:30AM which is the end time of the school for Kindergartener. The elementary teacher then later called me at 11:34AM and told me that she was putting a pined notice on my son's chest, and whether that is ok, I was surprised and was wondering what "pinning" means since I never heard of it, I said that the note could be put into my son's packet. My wife was called at 11:33AM but she did not answer the phone since she was at work at the time. This is after the fact that my son was already been tagged, and my child's after school teacher picked up my son and then has talked to the elementary teacher about removing the tag. We really did not know that it was coming and give consent. A simple showing of phone record will show that we are telling the true. If they thought that it was common practice to pin the child at the beginning, why do they need to call me about it for letting me know. If they could call me already, simply telling me to return the acknowledge form would be sufficient, why need to pin my child again? Obviously they have done the pinning before calling me. It is common sense. Thanks, Wilson
astronomy89's picture
There are many questionable mistakes within your comment. For instance, you admittedly gave complete permission to the school to exercise this method of "pinning". You "wondered what pinning was" but did not request an explanation from the school. Also your statement that the school should notify you to sign and return the form, was already within the agreement between you and the school stating they would sending the note home with your child. It was of your responsibility to understand the arrangement that was set between you and your teacher pertaining to the "pinning" issue. There may have been a language issue, but that is not the schools fault. It is simply a failing of proper communication. A simple request to the teacher or school would have been very sufficient and effective.
moontt's picture
As a resident and parent in Milpitas, I feel so sad for this story,not sad for pinning on the boy's shirt, really sad and shocked for these educators's attitude--comment practice, oh ,these "lovely educators" , I really feel upset and depressed for your distant attitude!!!
jiangtian's picture
This is absolutely NOT appropriate to do things like this, have you ever thought about the feeling from kids and parents when you do like this?
ppzhu's picture
I take this as a school bullying. You may say "are you serious?". Yes, I am. Bullying was defined as Imbalance of Power, people who bully use their power to control or harm and the people being bullied may have a hard time defending themselves. Bullying can also be perpetrated by teachers and the school system itself: There is an inherent power differential in the system that can easily predispose to subtle or covert abuse (relational aggression or passive aggression), humiliation, or exclusion — even while maintaining overt commitments to anti-bullying policies. (wikipedia) The school and the school board admitted this is a common practice (to humiliate kids) in order to let their parents to pay attention to school activities. Which means they are bullying the kids systematically. We are in information age. Exp. in Silicon Valley. There are tons of way to communicate with parents. Why school has to achieve their goal by humiliate the innocent kids? Actually, the school called the parents after they pinned the kid, (thank god they know how to use phone). Why didn't they do at the first place? If the teacher makes some mistake, can the principal staple a note to the teacher shirt to remind him/her to make corrections? The school and the school board never admit they did anything wrong. Instead, what they did was just try to cover it up, accuse the person who took the picture and sent the information around, and blame the parents don't speak English well. I wonder under this kind of school system, what our kids can learn from. I don't agree what the mayor said the school made the kid's parents "lost their face". The School violated the student's right. The should apologize to the student and the parents.
astronomy89's picture
I believe that a child's education is of a very important manner. Having worked at an Elementary school, I have personally experienced issues such as this "pinning" issue. Running a kindergarten class can sometimes be very stressful and chaotic, and from my complete understanding of this situation I believe this "pinning" issue to be completely blown out of context. From my certain experience as a child, my school would make us wear a big chunky id necklace around our necks that displayed our personal information. Of course I found it to be slightly embarrassing, but one day I lost my card and in effect I could not find my way home. Sometimes it is up to a teachers initiative to help protect or to see for the best interest of the child. Personally I believe it is a parental issue, for if they took responsibilities into their own hands, such as checking for such notes, practices such as these would have not come into effect. And as it seems, this was a very important document that needed to be reviewed by the child's parents. And there is no sign of humiliation or bullying that I can see towards the children. It is not done out of cruelty, but done out of the child's best interest. And if their are some real credible factual evidence that states that the school intentionally did this to "humiliate" children, I would like to hear of it. Also, this story would greatly benefit from being heard from the child's perspective. I believe that unless there is a written document from a respectable therapist that proves that this method of "pinning" notes to the child was traumatizing, then there is not much ground to accuse the school of "bullying".
eli74's picture
Omg. I go to Sinnott school, I know the whole story. Our class talked about it today. THe part that concerns me is the pin itself Isn't that dangerous for a lil' kid like that to run around with a pin attached to his chest... I don't think the teacher should be punisheod but warned... Well anyways this is all over the school. Mhm... At least it's taken care of and won't happen again hopefully....
Fran's picture
I am amazed at the amount of attention that this is receiving. A note was pinned to a child's shirt. Let's face it, as the parent of 2 kids and a working mother, notes get lost, especially when the child is so young. The teacher was simply trying to ensure that the child's parents saw the note and did their part of the bargain. It is the parent's responsibilty to read and sign off any homework, assignments and report cards sent home by the teachers. If this simple act is viewed by the parents as shocking and upsetting, they and the child have a long road ahead of them. Wait until the child hits middle school, not to mention high school. I now have one child finshing high school and one in college. Long ago, I made it very clear to them that the real world was not kindergarten and that it was not going to be easy. No one would care about their self-esteem, but whether they had what it takes to get the job. My husband and I are both first-generation Americans. Our families expected that we work as hard as we could to succeed. We expect the same from our kids. This is not bullying by the school, this is a teacher going above and beyond her job to make sure the parents do their part. Too many parents don't. Kindergarten classes today are packed with way too many kids. Before you criticize someone, try spending a day trying to get a full clasroom of 5 year olds (at different levels of maturity, intelligence, and languages) to listen and learn. The state is losing teachers. Instead of harrasing the ones we have, and thus discouraging others from entering the field, we should be supporting those willing to stay and teach. Otherwise we are going to face the fact that California is going drop further and further behind the rest of the country in educating its children.

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